When a man and a woman take their vows so as to spend the rest of their lives together, they are not just doing it to make it official. They are making a commitment and voicing it for everyone to hear. A wedding vow is a promise before witnesses to commit your life to being with and faithful to one man or one woman. This is the essence of all wedding vows. It is a serious and solemn commitment for a life time. Therefore, the vows reflect the couple’s decision to remain faithful through good times and hard times, and to love each other deeply.
The words used to make this promise vary greatly depending upon the religion, denomination, priest, minister or officiant. The vows may be traditional or modern. Most often, the vows are read by the officiant out of his/her book of service, then repeated by the bride and groom. Traditional vows may be similar to this Protestant vow:
“I ______, take you, _______, to be my wife/husband, and I do promise and covenant, before God and these witnesses, to be your loving and faithful wife/husband, in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, as long as we both shall live.”
People are no longer relying on traditional church wedding vows instead they are writing their vows straight from the heart. Before writing down your vow you really need to define what you mean because you will be held accountable to those words for the rest of your life.
Writing your own vows, Lois Kellerman says, is like making homemade cookies.
“If you can find the right ingredients, the right words in the case of vows, it is almost always better,” said Ms. Kellerman, a former leader of the Brooklyn Society for Ethical Culture who has officiated at hundreds of weddings.
Many brides and grooms are choosing to say vows they have written themselves, whether marrying in a meadow or a cathedral. Writing your own vows, then standing up and saying them in front of a crowd definitely heightens the emotions at a wedding ceremony.
People need to be honest in their marriage vows. They need to speak the truth without bending it. Address her fears, address his nightmares. Each of you should go straight to the point. Well many chose to be romantic and poetic in their vows but truth is no one has dared saying a true vow yet.
TRUTHFUL MARRIAGE VOWS YOU WON’T HEAR AT A WEDDING
1.) I PROMISE TO NEVER FLIRT, LUST, OR DESIRE THE ATTENTION OF SOMEONE OF THE OPPOSITE SEX.
When you get married, you vow faithfulness to your spouse. You vow exclusivity to them. You promise to never flirt, lust, or seek attention from the opposite sex. You promise to protect your mind from images that aren’t your spouse.
2.) I PROMISE TO NEVER EXPECT A 50/50 MARRIAGE.
You can’t keep score in a marriage. There’s no such thing as a 50/50 relationship. That’s a contract.
Give 100% of yourself every day. Some days, 100% won’t be much. But on those days, trust your spouse will pick you up. Regardless, let go of this give-and-take idea.